self-love

Which motivates you, self-love or self-hate?
I was brought up in a family where lots of us were overweight, and the emphasis was always on loving yourself as you are and remembering people's good points, not judging them, etc. All very good things. Along with this was the idea that people who were trying to loose weight were assumed to be motivated by self-hate and so were talked out of it. "What do you mean you want to loose weight? You're beautiful just as you are!"
So I spent many years not loosing weight and trying to enjoy it :)
But I have found another motivation: self-love. I can loose weight because I know that I am valuable, not because I think it will make me valuable. Can you see the difference? Its a drastic difference.
Self-hate wont take you there. You will find something else to hate yourself for. Its motivating in the short term, but its not actually helpful, that much my family was right about. But self-love, thats where all the best motivation comes from!